How does anger typically surface in your life?

We usually get angry at someone, don’t we? We judge that someone has done something wrong and we want them to be punished.
In truth, the actions of others are never to blame. It’s our thinking – our blaming and judgment – that causes the anger. And we blame and judge because we have a need that has not been met.

Rather than blame others, we are better served by directing our energy towards meeting our own needs. Instead of saying, ‘I am angry because they …’ we can say, ‘I am angry because I am needing ….’
“At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.”

Marshall B. Rosenberg, The Daily Guru, January 4,2007