A former inmate of a Nazi concentration camp was visiting a friend who had shared the ordeal with him.
“Have you forgiven the Nazis?” he asked his friend.
“Yes.”
“Well, I haven’t. I’m consumed with hatred for them.”
“In that case,” said his friend gently, “they still have you in prison.”

… (our enemies are not those who hate us but those whom we hate)… (From “The Heart of the Enlightened” by Anthony deMello, page 107)