Whereas judgmentalism focuses on flaws, forgiveness focuses on wholeness. As we
learn to act from the sphere of forgiveness in all our relationships, we become conduits for a greater energy, a lifeforce that we vibrantly “feel” as love, peace, compassion, power, wisdom, and an enthusiastic gratitude for life.

Healing is usually a painful process because it entails looking at our dark sides
and our worst fears. But it is by grappling with darkness that we eventually find light, and our pain may be transmuted to wisdom and joy. (From the book Guilt is the Teacher, Love is the Lesson (by Joan Borysenko), p 6)